Alignment Of Interest In Choosing Your Spouse

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In choosing a spouse, either by yourself or matched-make, you need to make sure that your interests aligned with your *"to-be"* interests.

These interests could be how religious they, what they like doing, the kind of work they do, where they like visiting, what they like listening to, what they like spending their time doing and so on.

Why alignment of interest is important is because is for both of you to live in peace, enjoy your union, and encourage each other to grow personally.

On the other hand, if your interests are not aligned, there will be constant conflicts and there will be no support needed for growth.

For instance, if one person likes reading and the other doesn't, when the one that likes reading wants to be alone with books, the other person may feel neglected and that can result in constant complain.

So alignment of interest is very important in choosing a spouse.

An interesting response by one of the group members.

100% agree with this but people need to understand that there are interests beyond this so your example about reading was apt. It's the little things that appear unimportant that can cause discord in marriages. You can grow as a couple- career wise (the big picture) and still have issues with little things because you aren't ready to compromise. Another example from me. I love traveling. Why? Because I love driving. And we're all like that in my family so I never understood why someone would hate traveling. Seems to be a little matter until I met her. She hates traveling😊. I like board games, she doesn't. I love football, she didn't. These are interests that individuals will have. She has her own things that I was not interested in. That's where the compromise is important. If not, over time  you'll just realize you've drifted apart because your interests (the seemingly minor ones) differ. You become a couple that are not friends.🤷🏽‍♂️

Response....

For sure, there will always be misunderstanding but if they are friendly to each other, they can always settle their differences quickly.

What I mean by alignment for growth is that when couples don't have the same or similar views on things, they can't easily support each other's growth.

Let say the woman wants to be a career woman and the man doesn't like the idea, he won't support her dreams and that will make it difficult for her to grow.

Even if he eventually allows her to work, he won't be a motivator to her.

Couples need each other to inspire themselves, they should be each other's first fan and cheerleader but without alignment of interest, that can't happen.

Taskmaster of the week: Mrs. Safiya
Presented on Blissful Hearts WhatsApp Group
July 12th, 2023

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