Blissful Hearts

Have you ever wondered why you begin to feel overwhelmed and tired of a relationship that was once ELECTRIFYING? Why is it that most couples   experience a decline in love and affection with someone they once called a SOUL MATES? This is because most couples think *SEX* is the most important aspect of marriage .  But NO, it isn't. INTIMACY is the *GLUE* of all relationships. As started above, INTIMACY is the degree of closeness and bond that exists between you and your partner. Paying close attention to these words  DEGREE   CLOSENESS OR BOND  You will observe that the definition puts into account the *EXTENT* (DEGREE) of *INTIMACY* (BOND/CLOSENESS). The word degree is a measure of *how much* of deliberate effort has been put in place to ensure that the marriage is healthy and safe. This can only be achieved through conscious attempt to ensure things work for both of you in the marriage .  Most importantly, having the fear of Allah in all you do will naturally guide your daily enga

Let's talk more about compromise. It was mentioned towards the end of our conversation on Wednesday and I thought we should talk more about it. Compromise in relationships and/or marriage is about finding a middle ground or reaching an agreement when two individuals have different needs, desires, or opinions. It involves a willingness to prioritize the relationship, and work together to find solutions that both partners can be satisfied with. In a relationship, compromise is very important because no two people are exactly alike. Each person brings their own background, experiences, and preferences to the table. This diversity can lead to conflicts or disagreements on various matters, such as how to spend free time, manage finances, or handle household responsibilities. When facing such situations, compromise allows partners to listen to each other, understand their point of views, and find ways to meet halfway. It requires open and honest communication, and the willingness to cons

In choosing a spouse, either by yourself or matched-make, you need to make sure that your interests aligned with your *"to-be"* interests. These interests could be how religious they, what they like doing, the kind of work they do, where they like visiting, what they like listening to, what they like spending their time doing and so on. Why alignment of interest is important is because is for both of you to live in peace, enjoy your union, and encourage each other to grow personally. On the other hand, if your interests are not aligned, there will be constant conflicts and there will be no support needed for growth. For instance, if one person likes reading and the other doesn't, when the one that likes reading wants to be alone with books, the other person may feel neglected and that can result in constant complain. So alignment of interest is very important in choosing a spouse. An interesting response by one of the group members. 100% agree with this but people need to